Is this what life was like before social networking?

I broke up with Facebook yesterday. Our relationship had been weighing heavily on me for quite awhile. I knew it wasn’t healthy– sure, I loved Facebook, but I think I only loved it out of obligation. Once our relationship started, once I decided I didn’t want it to end, I let a lot of things slip past me.

While pretending to connect me to all my friends and family, Facebook was actually controlling those relationships. I forgot how to communicate with people more substantially than just replying to a status update. I’ve found lately that Facebook was taking more away from me than it was giving, and I just couldn’t deal with it anymore.

I don’t think this will be a permanent break up. After all, Facebook is a great tool to keep in touch with people. However, it shouldn’t be the only way I keep in touch. It’s been interrupting my creativity as well– I find that I spend more time being jealous of people I know who are writing and talking about it on Facebook than writing myself.

I think this break will be good for us. Really. I need to remember how I used to function before Facebook came along, and I need to find a new way to make connections. I also need to get control of my apparently very addictive personality…

So, this is it. For now. Facebook and I have parted ways, and in time, I hope that we can become good friends.

Now, I just have to stop thinking in status updates. And stop thinking about what kind of inane caption I could apply to a picture I want to take.

I can live without Facebook. Really. I think…


8 Comments on “Is this what life was like before social networking?”

  1. Carrie says:

    I broke up with Facebook a long time ago…I found myself annoyed with the innane bickering about pointless crap.

    I prefer Twitter but even that I have distanced myself from. I’m actually trying to cut back on all my online activities and focus on actual “writing” that I could maybe enter into a contest (like Hack’s) and maybe, dare I say it, WIN! Or maybe get something published.

    I’d like to feel my writing is good enough that someone thought it was the best out of everything, you know?

    Thanks for stopping by and visiting 🙂

    • I’m in the same boat with the writing thing. I want my blog to matter, not the pointless crap on facebook. It would be different if I actually felt like I was connecting with people there, but it just doesn’t. Sure, I know what’s going on with them day-to-day, but no one ever really converses there.

      Blogging is totally different story, though. I like interacting with other bloggers and getting to know people that way. I found your blog when I looked up one of Hack’s post. I gotta say, knowing you’re my competition for this writing contest makes me a little nervous 😉

  2. egills says:

    I have a Facebook Account.. my mum, brothers, children, cousins, nephew, friends are all on it. It’s a useful tool to use to keep up with the family when they’re dotted all over. But I rarely actually use it. I do find it upsetting when I’m kept out of the loop on important things from my friends.. like I found out yesterday that one of my friends got married yesterday and announced it as a status update!

    • My sister found out I was married through Facebook… Oops.

      I’m a thousand miles away from everyone I know, but it feels like Facebook only creates the illusion of contact. The only thing I get there that I wouldn’t get otherwise is pictures. Eventually I’ll go back to it, but I’ll never be on it as much as I was.

  3. Jaclyn Rae says:

    I broke up with Facebook months ago. I loved it but it seemed to bring a lot of unnecessary gossip into my life. I don’t even miss it 🙂

  4. This is so funny. I swore the other day each time I felt like browsing facebook I would write something. ANYTHING.

    Then I just wanted to delete my profile. Then I got all mad at myself for not having the self control to just NOT log in.

    I fight with my inner self a lot.

    • Be careful, those fights can get brutal!

      I haven’t logged in for 9 days… it’s amazing how much more time I have. I haven’t done anything productive with it, but it’s still there.

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